When our bitter experiences make us better. 

They said that having a sister could either be the best or the worst. But like any other relationships, no sisters are perfect.

Many times we argue, many times we fight. We even stop talking to each other at times. I can literally count the number of days in a year that we were OK. But at the end of the day, we are still sisters and I will never be here before her.

To my sister who never gets tired of preparing, cooking and serving delicious food every day..

To my sister who understands my crazy personality..

To my sister who never settle for less when it comes to finding the right man..

To my sister who is more excited than I am to meet my future husband..

To my sister who cheers me up and my number one fan. haha!

To my sister, my prayer buddy and my best friend, I love you so much and Happy happy Birthday!

I am amazed by how God works behind the scenes to heal us and make us the better persons He wanted us to be. That old unpleasant relationship taught me important lessons and here are three of them.

1. Acceptance.

Nobody is perfect. Growing up in a different environment and staying together for the first time as a woman was a challenge. I was reminded that God made us unique.  As I begin to accept our different personalities, I was set free.

“Accept one another just as Christ has accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” -Romans 15:7

“Acceptance of others, their looks, their behaviors, their beliefs, bring you an inner peace and tranquility – instead of anger and resentment.”

 

2. Patience.

I remember I was irritated, angry and frustrated for no reason. I didn’t like myself for doing so. I would cry to God as I write in my journal to remove the burdens in my heart. I believe that God is working until I realized I became patient and calm in the way I respond to our interactions.

“Be humble and gentle in every way. Be patient with each other and lovingly accept each other.” -Ephesians 4:2

“Patience is a form of wisdom. It demonstrates that we understand and accept the fact that sometimes things must unfold in their own time.”-Jon Kabat-Zinn

 

3. Forgiveness.

I couldn’t bear the heaviness in my heart and so I choose to forgive myself and forgive her. I choose to let go of our bitter memories. I find peace and joy. You are an amazing sister and I will always love you the way God created you to be.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ, God forgave you.” -Ephesians 4:32

“Holding a grudge doesn’t make you strong, it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn’t make you weak, it sets you free.” -Dave Willis

 

Remember that I am forever grateful to have you as my sister. I will always be here for you.

May God answer the desires of your heart, may you have more surprises and blessings as you continue to seek and grow in His word.

Your little, crazy and loving sister,

Melay

 

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